are drunk actions actually sober thoughts?
I’ve had a few times where I have said something awful while drunk, and the people around me were mad, because they believe that ‘‘drunk actions are sober thoughts’’.
But is that always true?
I have even found somewhere that in Chinese business culture, they believe it that much that potential business partners are all sometimes forced to get drunk together before any important deals take place.1
I don’t think it’s entirely true. When this has happened to me, I usually knew that what I said wasn’t what I was actually thinking.
From what I’ve read: ‘‘Alcohol can lower inhibitions and impair judgment, which may lead to people expressing thoughts or feelings that they would typically keep to themselves’’.2
I believe that in some cases, consuming alcohol can lead to unintentionally speaking the truth, but not in all cases. Sometimes it can make you say things without even thinking about them before they leave your mouth, combined with the fact that you don't even remember them. Sometimes what you say drunk may include feelings and thoughts that do exist, but not in the exact way they come out.
I feel like people who believe that this is completely truth have either never experienced it themselves or haven’t been drunk enough and they use it as an excuse to justify their reaction. For example, one time my old friend started choking me because she got so angry about something that came out of my mouth without thinking about it deeper. The other friends felt sorry for her, but no one seemed to care about my side of the situation. I don’t think that’s really fair.
So what’s your opinion about this ‘‘theory’’?
i think that it can be both!! sometimes when you're drunk it does make you act on feelings that you wouldn't act on sober — alcohol makes things seem more black and white, which i suppose is why it lowers your inhibitions. but i've often done/said things whilst drunk that i would never do whilst sober, and it's just been because being drunk has made me do stupid things. maybe deep down sober me desired those things, but i definitely don't remember it!! i think it depends on lots of factors — how drunk you are, what type of personality you have, what type of drunk you are, if there was already thoughts on your mind before drinking, etc.
wow this was a fascinating thought! I have to say that, I feel like as emotions are heightened drunk words aren't always sober thoughts but a reflection of your emotionally status and personality during these feelings. Like how people kiss a lot of others in clubs when they've drunk too much, or start crying because they feel such overwhelming love for the ones around them, its an insight to the most passionate part of ourselves.